It is often the enthusiasm for the Goal you have in mind that makes you want to announce it to the world. You have envisioned this desired goal; you have played out in your mind each step you should follow to get there; realization has made the goal very real and possible; you have been feeling the positive emotions of joy and optimism, because this goal expresses your creative potential. You feel like you are able to move the earth and the sky (it is true, but, unfortunately, we often ignore it) to see your creative Goal get flesh and bone.
This entire new situation excites you so much that you want to share your enthusiasm with as many people as you can!
But this seemingly harmless action may be fatal to your goal-setting and your goal! How? Sharing your goal with certain kinds of people can result in consequences.
These consequences can include the following:
- They fail to understand how important this goal is to you. Not all people share the same ideas, the same dreams, the same know-how or experiences. If, for example, you attempt to explain your goal to set-up a new start-up software company to someone who knows nothing about entrepreneurship or software, it is very likely that this person might feel confusion, fear, or a lack of interest. Her response might discourage you and put a damper on your plans.
- They have remained un-creative for a long period of time, so the concept of a creative project could make them feel hostile, threatened, or scared. There are people who either because of education or life experiences have moved away from their creative nature and live each and every day in a well-known and “safe” comfort zone. If something happens to push them near or out of the limits of this zone, the insecurity and the fear of survival immediately awaken within them. These are the worst advisor for creativity and goal-setting.
- Rather than calmly reflecting on your Goal, they project their own fears and negative beliefs, and as a result, they discourage you. They may say things like, “Are you sure you will succeed?”, “Do you know how difficult things are today?”, “Why trouble yourself with such an idea? It is so risky!”, “Why bother? You’re fine just the way you are.”. These people usually produce this kind of thinking on a daily basis, even against their own selves ( “in life we rarely get what we want”, “be grateful for what you have”, “Why do you think you will succeed where so many others have failed?”). Thus, these same thoughts tend to be their first reaction to your own creative initiative, without having thought much about it. However, their discouragement can directly have a negative impact on your own morale.
These behaviors are, of course, corrosive against the realization of your Goal. It is your duty to protect yourself from such attitudes and mindsets. Besides, chances are these people do not share the same Goals as you, which means you can’t expect them to show the same enthusiasm you feel.
There are only two exceptions his rule when it is a good idea to openly talk about your Goal with others.
1. The Goal you are working toward is not very big and does not decisively determine the course of your life. For example, it may be about your new hobby, like knitting or learning a new language, organizing an excursion or a trip to a favorite destination, or some furniture purchase for your home. When the discussion concerns such a small Goal, sharing your idea with other people can provide you with valuable information and data that may push your goal forward.
This works because most people think it is natural to achieve small Goals. Thus, they can be encouraging when discussing Goals of this magnitude with other people.
Unfortunately, people tend to disregard the fact that they can equally achieve bigger goals. Usually this negative belief affects their judgment towards you, when you share the vision of your Goals with them. Only mentors who have already found themselves able to achieve great Goals are able to listen to you and encourage you with proper advice on a big Goal.
2. In order to make your Goal true, you necessitate the contribution of others. For example, you need to share your Goal when you want to set up a theatrical group, a reading club, an amateur soccer team, or a climbing group. More specifically, when referring to a large Goal, you can share your idea with others, with the basic premise that these are people who can contribute to its realization. For instance, if you wish to set up a new business, it would be wise to share this idea with individuals whom you consider appropriate to participate in this business.
You need to take care of your big Goal with the same care and affection that the Little Prince showed toward his rose in St. Exupery’s book. Make sure there is no external threat before exposing your goal to others. Besides, it is much better for you to experience failure while creating your Goal, than to fail because you got discouraged by others. As a creative person, you know very well how to translate this failure into a valuable experience that will eventually lead you to realize your Goal, if you wish.
A successful way to do that is to reveal your Goal with care and attention. Choose wisely who you will share your idea with. These people need to be creative themselves and positive towards the process of creativity and entrepreneurship. Better yet, find people in the creative field who can be mentors and advise you with positive and vital guidance. Their comments on your ideas will only help you extend your strategy to best achieve your Goal and give you valuable feedback regarding which specific parameters you need to pay special attention to while implementing your idea.
You will understand who the right people are to talk to about your Goal when you realize that they speak in a positive way, they offer constructive criticism and that they, themselves, systematically set Goals and follow the appropriate strategies and know-how to achieve them.
But the most important thing is that when you consult them, you feel confident about yourself, and an unlimited motivation to do whichever action steps you need in order to reach your Goal. They advise you with encouragement and respect for your Goal, always relying on real facts, not on speculations, their own feelings, or unnecessary hypotheses. They help you keep your enthusiasm towards the Goal, but they rightly indicate the difficult points. And ultimately they encourage you to overcome these difficulties and not allow them to put an end to your Goal.
Once you have found a mentor, consult only them and avoid those who cannot understand the “wondrous” power of Goal-setting.
Let’s begin creating!
Last modified: February 25, 2019