Jealousy is a very misunderstood emotion that is misjudged and deeply criticized by the majority of society. Let’s talk about what jealousy is and how it can impact our lives for the better.
To begin with, jealousy actually means to observe something outside the observer’s life action and wish to have a similar action inside her own life.
Jealousy (ζήλος [zélos] in Ancient Greek means: the drive to realize something I wish to.
Jealousy is the energy behind human civilisation. It actually signifies that we encounter and observe something that we would like to have in our own lives. Soon after this experience, we do all the necessary creative actions to obtain a similar reality in our own lives.
Thus, we observe and then we imitate. Psychology describes this as the fundamental procedure by which human learning occurs.
In other words, the good form of jealousy is connected with the human need to learn new things and progress.
Unfortunately, the most popular idea of jealousy nowadays is the one that emphasises a very negative aspect of the word – an adverse way of thinking about others when they have something we want. This interpretation has led to the culpabilisation, or feelings of guilt, associated with this emotion.
But let’s cancel a very misleading myth: “Jealousy is an emotion that only ill-willed people feel”. Well, the actual truth is that everyone feels jealous! It is very natural behaviour, especially when we look at jealousy from a physiological standpoint. Yet most of us vainly attempt to suppress it, ignore it, or pretend that we don’t experience it at all.
What a pity! Jealousy is so indispensable for our lives! It is the key to improving our quality of life.
Here are three major benefits jealousy creates for human progress:
1. To discern or make me aware of a better situation than the one I am currently in.
2. To provide all the necessary motivation in order to claim this better situation for my own life.
3. To offer continuous feedback of my current situation in relation to others around me. “Do I like my current life? Do I want something more?”. Jealousy is the emotion that studies our present situation and compares it to others to indicate to us the direction we might want to go.
By suppressing its action we offer no benefit to ourselves. On the contrary, when we try to avoid jealousy we tend to give away a significant part of our creative energy and stay behind in our personal development.
Jealousy has far too many negative connotations attached to it. We need to accept its expression in our lives, not as a negative, but as a positive force that is fundamental to our creativity, and in turn, our ability to grow and realise greater potential.
If you are keen to learn how to use your emotional tool set, like jealousy, anger, fear or stress, in order to better your life, you can contact me via email:
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After a longstanding career in research at the National Centre of Scientific Research of France (CNRS) and the prestigious Collège de France of Paris, I have spent more than a decade focusing my activity in the successful treatment of phobias, panic and stress disorders, as well as the personal development and reinforcement of personal strengths, soft skills and emotional intelligence. I am a trained and expert therapist of these conditions.
My therapeutic approach is based upon the application of scientific and psychotherapeutic proven techniques for a comprehensive and successful approach to dealing with the aforementioned issues.
I am a certified Cognitive Psychologist and a Member of the official Association of Greek Psychologists (SEPS). I am also a Certified Member of the European Federation of Psychological Associations (EFPA), and hold a European Certification of Psychological Practice (EuroPsy) in more than 19 countries of the European continent. I am also a member of the International Society of Emotional Intelligence and Member of the International Network of Teachers of CEB (Cultivating Emotional Balance).
I provide Individual Consulting and Therapy for Personal Development and Self Awareness, EQ education (including for the professional field), Life Coaching for successful living and career, Meditative Techniques for Mindfulness, Concentration, Relaxation and Equanimity, as well as group seminars on the topics of Personal Development, CEB, Life Coaching for Successful Living and Goal Setting.
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Last modified: November 23, 2018